‘Things Left Unsaid’ meme
February 24, 2008
Hello Possums. I have been thinking about things I have left unsaid ever since reading Charlotte’s post on the same topic. I have decided to write my own list:
1. Its too late to tell me that you loved me then. But I wish I’d known. My life would have taken a completely different course. I still fantasise about it.
2. I loved you like a sister and grieved for two years when our friendship ended.
3. I always wanted to be just like you, until I realised how painful it was to live your life. I’m much better off playing to my own strengths and making my own rules.
4. Your effect on our working environment was toxic. Don’t ever presume that just because we were colleagues that we are friends.
5. I misinterpreted you. I thought our communication was building a relationship.
6. I have twice given life to you. Digging you out of that sand marked me as deeply emotionally as giving birth.
7. You are so hot. I don’t want a relationship but how about just one night together?
8. Go die in a hole.
9. Being your mother is the most important thing in my life.
10. Thanks for coming along to help me reconnoitre the canoe trip. I’m really embarrassed about running out of petrol, especially now that I am a parent too. I don’t know what I would have done if you weren’t there and it were just me, your son and the other student.
11. I forgive you and I’m glad we have managed to redefine our relationship. My relationship with you is very important to me.
12. I lied to you to break contact and I’m very sorry. You deserved to be treated much better than that. I hope your life has worked out okay.
13. I’m really sorry that I can’t be nicer to you, but you give me the shits. Perhaps we should just call it a day.
14. We were very young and I hope you have forgotten what I did to you at the blue light disco. I can’t explain my behavioiur to this day. I feel like a complete idiot.
15. Dancing with you was a major turn-on. I wish I could keep you as a pet.
[And that's my list. If you would like to have a go, please let me know in the comments. The challenge is to come up with fifteen!].
There is something cathartic about this isn’t there? It seems we all carry around emotional baggage and to just store it somewhere else is pretty satisfying.
Yes, I think everyone has one or two loose ends. Some of the above are more for my enjoyment rather than things I need to get off my chest though. I like thinking about the un-say-able. Its an interesting topic, and one that Sacha Baren Cohen cashes in on one hundred percent.
This post has me thinking … all those things left unsaid. Where would I begin? It was interesting reading your fifteen and thinking what the stories were behind each of them!
Thanks Kate. Perhaps you might like to give it a go!
Numbers five, seven, eleven and fifteen are already storied in epossums. Perhaps I should link them?
Interesting therapy route there. I might have a go later. Being the kind of person who is terrified of any kind of confrontation, I should be able to think of loads of ‘left unsaids’.
Cool. I look forward to reading your list.
As far as therapy goes, most of the stuff I have already dealt with, except number fourteen. And yes, it does feel good to confess after so long. Its the only one on the list that I have never discussed with a soul. A boy I liked was shoulder riding on his tall friend (as you used to do at blue light discos to certain songs, you know, the one on top claps to the music…). He reached for my hand. Instead of holding his hand I gave his hand a tug. He fell. I was mortified. He stared at me in disbelief. It was terrible.
You should link them … that would be cool.
Hi Kate. I hope you’ve had a good weekend.
Here we go: five, seven, eleven and fifteen! And number 14 is elaborated on in my reply to earthpal. I’m looking forward to reading your list. I might pop over to ’smudges’ and see what you’re up to